Transformative
Couples Therapy

Build a secure and passionate relationship

Your relationship is struggling

One of you feels so alone and misunderstood.

You’ve tried so much to change this relationship- books, podcasts, advice from friends and family and nothing is working. You try to bring up things to your partner in a neutral way but it inevitably spirals into a conflict and before you know it you’re back in that same awful place of disconnection that seems to happen over and over again without resolution. You’re told you’re being too critical, focusing on the negatives or not listening enough. You worry so much about your relationship but to you it seems you are the only one fighting for it and you are left feeling alone and unimportant. But it’s the fighting that keeps making everything worse and now there are a lot of issues it seems you can’t even talk about. Everyday it seems more and more like your partner is a roommate and you miss the times where you felt a strong connection and passion towards each other. You just want to find a way to get through to your partner and feel heard.

The other of you is just tired of the fighting and feeling rejected.

You feel there is nothing you can say that will make this better or change their mind so you might as well keep it in and go away. At least eventually the storm passes when you shut down, but deep down you also feel lonely and unheard. You’re told you need to open up more, share your feelings- but this is so hard for you. You feel like you are constantly walking on eggshells to make your partner happy and you’re tired. You worry you won’t be seen as good enough and the seemingly constant criticisms are tough to handle. You do care quite a lot but if the fighting continues you worry this relationship won’t make it. Every time you have to go away to calm down it feels a bit worse and you’re not sure there is space to really be yourself here.

You are not alone

BUMPS IN THE ROAD ARE INEVITABLE. I’LL HELP YOU NAVIGATE THEM.

It may feel impossible now, but you can find that spark of connection again. You can learn how to communicate your wants and needs without drama. You can feel at peace in your relationships. And I can help you get there.

Couples therapy helps you:

Identify emotional and behavioral patterns that keep you stuck
Explore alternate ways of relating and responding to your partner
Develop skills and strategies to move your relationship forward
Strengthen friendship and admiration
Become a team player so that you and your partner can feel supported in the process
Rekindle passion and have the sexual relationship you want
Express your deepest desires, dreams and fears and let your partner know you in a much more intimate way
Become your best self and the best partner you can be
Learn how to stay true to yourself while deepening your connection to your partner

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Meet Your
Therapist

THERAPY DOESN’T HAVE TO BE INTIMIDATING.

I’ll guide you through this process by tailoring each step to your unique needs and circumstances.

My approach to couples therapy comes from a place of balanced optimism: believing that neither you nor your partner are the “problem,” and that it’s the cycle you’re in that needs fixing. I will help you hold compassion for yourself and your partner while also maintaining accountability.

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How I help

I offer therapy for couples of every orientation that is based on the Relationship Theory Model (RTM), an evidenced based and integrative model that is on the cutting edge of therapy today. This model is based on the research from Attachment Theory, Neuroscience and Neuroplasticity which all provide a solid framework for deep and lasting change in yourself and your relationships.

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SOME OF MY SPECIALTIES

Trauma- Informed Couples Therapy

Through my training in various models of couples therapy that are based on attachment, I recognize the impact of past traumas on the relationship dynamic. Together we will work to create a compassionate and non-judgmental space where both partners can explore their emotional wounds, develop healthier communication patterns, and rebuild trust.
Infidelity Recovery

Using a structured approach, I help couples heal from betrayal, rebuild trust, and navigate the emotional journey to recovery
Intimacy and Sexuality

I help couples explore, understand, and enhance their sexual well-being, while addressing challenges and fostering healthy, fulfilling intimacy

Couples therapy may be a good fit if…

You are committed to your relationship, but feel stuck when it comes to how to improve it.
Both of you are open to feedback and changing your own behavior both in session and at home. You are willing to adapt a growth mindset.
Are interested in the science and research behind what makes relationships go the distance.
Want additional resources for learning like books, blog articles, and podcasts.
You are willing to prioritize your relationship to do work outside of sessions.

Couples therapy may not be a good fit if…

You’re unwilling to work on your own behavior and you’d rather blame your spouse for the problems.
There is ongoing domestic violence
One or both of you is in an active affair that you aren’t interested in stopping or disclosing to your partner.
You are set on divorce and are only looking for mediation or coparenting support.
You don’t feel able to carve out the time to dedicate to working on the relationship outside of sessions.

WHAT HAPPENS NEXT

Contact

We will schedule a phone consultation to get a brief understanding of your situation, give you a sense of my therapeutic style, and determine if I am a good match. If am I not a good match, I will do my best to refer you another provider or service.

If we decide to move forward, you’ll receive a secure link to my client portal to complete all needed forms prior to our first meeting. This includes several written assessments to get us started.

Assessment

During the first session (both partners present) we discuss what it is like to be in the relationship currently, how the relationship has evolved over time, and what you both hope to get out of therapy.

Additionally, I also meet with each partner for an individual session to discuss their individual goals/hopes for therapy and gather more information on family history and background.

Plan

Lastly, during the third assessment session (both partners present) I give personalized feedback to you about the strengths and challenge areas based on the assessment sessions. I will help you begin to connect the dots and provide a clear understanding of the cycle you are getting caught in. This is a very personalized and collaborative process. Together, we develop a plan on how to move forward and discuss whether my approach will work for you.